An Ounce of Encouragement
Last weekend I went out body-surfing with one of my mates, at one of our
magnificent beaches here in Newcastle. We also took an 8 year old guy with us
who has a speech impediment which makes him lisp badly.
Because many of the kids in his life criticize and mock Daniel, he has very low
self esteem, and is quite afraid of people, and many day-to-day experiences.
We were having a ball in the surf, catching a few waves, and generally enjoying
the energy and pounding that is often part of this great sport. We noticed that
Daniel was not keen to join us as he was scared of the waves, and didn't know
what to do when they got a bit demanding, even though he was quite close to the
shore.
I stood back and watched as my mate took Daniel by the hand and led him further
into the water. Next thing I saw him getting Daniel onto his back so that he
could piggy-back him a little further out. Then I watched in admiration as he
encouraged Daniel to do some new things. He had him ducking under the waves that
were menacing; swimming with the waves that were catchable; and generally
teaching him some of the 'laws' of being in the surf.
After about half an hour of this encouragement and support, Daniel came running
up the beach beaming with a sense of joy that was inspiring for me to witness.
As he got closer he said, "I'm not thcared any more, 'cos Jayden thowed me what
to do, and now I'm bwave"! "That wath the betht time I've ever had"! "Thankth
for bringing me with you"!
It was one of the many times in my life that re-emphasized that just one ounce
of encouragement can make a ton of difference! I also felt so grateful for being
in the position that I have created in my life, where I am helping people to
feel empowered, on a daily basis.
My mate Jayden just happens to be one of my grandsons. He's 7 years old - and
he's already learnt the value of giving encouragement and support to others!
I gave him a high-five and told him I was proud of him! He also beamed with the
satisfaction of the last half hour spent empowering Daniel. Daniel is his friend
and next door neighbour.
Jayden has also played a huge part in helping two other grandkids in overcoming
their fear of the water over recent times. They too have come out of the water
each time beaming with pride and satisfaction at having taken steps towards
being capable of enjoying the water .... rather than fearing it!
When I take them all out swimming now - it's a blast!
Not only are Michell and Cameron now capable of having fun - they keep
challenging themselves by wanting to venture further from the shore each time.
So now I am constantly hearing, "Come on Pa, let's go out where it's deeper"!
That inspires me immensely!
They're all true champions! One for leading; and the others for allowing
themselves to be led in a positive way!
What else can we learn from this?
Life throws us some waves that are meant to be ridden; and some are there so we
can learn to simply duck under them, and let them go!
The lesson is in learning to know which is which!
The enjoyment is in riding the ones that we can!
Phil Evans phil@peoplestuff.com.au