The Same Old Story
In the twenty or so years that my wife and I have been doing youth ministry,
we have dealt with a lot of teens who have gotten themselves into some dire
straits. In fact, I thought there was nothing that could possibly surprise us
anymore…
I was wrong…
There is one teenage girl that we know that I had to tell you about. However,
before I do, I want you to understand that in our youth ministry, we always
strive for confidentiality, to protect both the teen and the teen's family. So
it is with great trepidation that I share this with you for I know that some of
you will figure out who this girl is. But I am hoping that by the end of these
few pages, you will understand why I had to share what I am about to tell you.
But before you rush to judgment, I want you to hang with me here. In fact, more
than anything else, I want you to put yourself in this teen's shoes. Try and
feel what she must be feeling…
This young girl is about 14 years old and she comes to the stark realization
that she is pregnant. Not only does she realize that her life is going to
drastically change, but to make matters worse, she is afraid to tell her
boyfriend. Normally she can go to her boyfriend with any problem. He is a pretty
stable, understanding and dependable guy. But this time it's different. You see,
the baby is not his.
She lays awake that first night thinking about all the people she has to face
that next day.
Her parents…
She has always been worthy of the trust her parents have put in her. In fact
other families have remarked to her parents how they wish their daughters were
more like her. But now she has to stand before them and explain how she got
pregnant. And if that is not bad enough, she is going to have to explain to them
that the father of the baby is not the young man that her parents think she
should marry…
Her boyfriend…
She loves her boyfriend more than anyone! Well, almost more than anyone. How is
she going to face him? Where is she going to get the courage? It would almost be
easier if she could tell him that it was just a big mistake and that she is oh,
so sorry for it. But she can't lie to him. She will have to look into his
trusting eyes and tell him that she willfully chose the path that led to this
little life growing inside of her. She knows deep down inside, that if she had
to do it all over again, she would make the same decision, and end up in the
same precarious situation. "Please God! Please let him understand and not
abandon me. I need him so much right now!"
Her friends…
Right or wrong, they have always put her on a pedestal. Always looked to her for
answers. Always modeled their life after hers. But she knows instinctively that
they will not understand. In fact she knows that she may never be able to
explain to them what made her do what she did.
So she lays there in bed, afraid, overwhelmed, and reaching out to God for
strength to face what is ahead of her.
The next day she finally gets up the courage to tell her boyfriend. He reacts
just as she feared he would react. He is going to leave her.
She becomes distraught and questions God: "Why God? Why? I know that I am in
this situation because of a decision I made, but please don't take my boyfriend
away from me! I desperately need him now!"
This unnamed teen goes to bed that night more afraid than ever, feeling every
bit the young child that she is…
Her name? Normally I wouldn't give that to you. But in this case she asked that
her name be known so that others will understand what she has gone through and
be encouraged…
Her name is Mary and she lived 2000 years ago.
Have you ever thought of the Christmas story in this way before?
Think about it! You are a 14-year old girl and an angel appears to you and says,
"I'm going to place a baby inside of your womb." Most 14-year old girls I know
would say, "I'm sorry, but that doesn't fit in with my plans for my life. I have
my whole life ahead of me and I can't be held back by a baby! How am I going to
go to prom now!?"
How does Mary tell Joseph? Have you ever thought of that? She has to go to her
future husband and say, "I'm pregnant and the baby is not yours.
The conversation may have gone something like this:
Mary: "Joe, before you get angry at me I want you to know that I didn't cheat on
you."
Joseph: "Come on Mary! You know full well that we have not known each other in
the biblical sense, so the baby can't possibly be mine!"
Mary: "Joseph, you have to believe me. I did not have sex with anyone!"
Joseph: "Please Mary, don't do this to me. You know that I love you and care for
you. But I can't listen to this."
Mary: "OK, Joseph, I won't lie to you." (She pauses, searching his eyes for the
understanding that she knows is not humanly possible.) "The baby is from God."
Joseph: "Mary! Please! This is not like you! In fact, I am beginning to think I
don't even know you any more!"
Mary: "You have to believe me Joseph!"
Joseph: (The wheels already turning in his head as to what he needs to do)
"Mary, you know that I love you. But I won't stand for this. I have every right
to put you away from me publicly, but I don't have the heart to do that to you.
I won't marry you now, but I will allow you to find some dignity and not make a
big deal out of this. But go you will."
Mary: "Please Joseph! You've got to believe me! Why would I make something like
this up!"
Joseph: "Enough! I don't want to hear another word."
And he walks away, leaving Mary distraught and worrying…
You know the story. An angel appears to Joseph and verifies that what Mary says
is truth.
Hopefully by now you are not thinking of the story of Jesus' birth as the same
old boring story that we read every Christmas season!
Stop your busyness and ponder with me these next few weeks.
Think of God as a fetus, leaving Heaven and all of its splendor and becoming one
of the most fragile things on Earth: a human baby. An animal baby is more able
to defend and adapt when they are born than a human is.
As a writer, I would never have written the story this way. If I'm going to
write the story of God coming to Earth, He's going to be on a white stallion
when He rides out of Heaven. Every hoof-beat will leave lightning-like sparks on
the streets of gold and peals of thunder in the air. The stars will line up as
letters in every language that will blink: "The King of Kings is Coming!" He's
going to burst through the ozone layer in a fiery explosion that will rock the
foundation of the earth and send humans and animals to a prone position on the
ground. Then He's going to circle the entire earth from east to west and the
clouds will trail behind Him like a pure white flowing robe. There'll be the
deafening sound of heavenly trumpets and the majestic pureness of millions of
angels' voices hitting your ears as if they were right next to you…
That's how I'd write it.
God says, "Nope. He's going to live inside of an unwed teenage girl and He's
going to be born in a stable." Which is a really nice word for a cave where
smelly animals live. There was manure and urine on the floor, and the stench was
almost unbearable. Priceless paintings and works of art did not hang on the
walls in this nursery. No, if you were to look on these walls you would see
cobwebs.
Psalm 33:6 reads, "By the word of the LORD were the heavens made, their starry
host by the breath of his mouth." The One who breathed galaxies into existence,
now depended on an umbilical cord for His oxygen. Amazing!
In your wildest dreams, can you equate the deity of the King of Kings making his
entrance into this world through the human process we call birth.
Instead of noticing a crown of purest gold on his head, you notice the
cone-shape of his head as he was forced through the birth canal. Instead of
wearing the finest robes money can buy, he is wrapped in rags.
Instead of a finely crafted bed made by the most gifted craftsman in the land,
he is laid in a feeding trough. Don't give me this "manger" stuff. Manger sounds
too romantic. God was put in a feeding trough where cows put their tongues to
lick up food. That's where the King of the universe slept.
He who sustains the entire universe is now being sustained through the milk of a
teenage girl.
If Mary could have written a book, it would be on the New York Times'
Best-Selling List. The title of the book would have been, "I Changed God's
Diapers." Have you ever thought of that? Someone had to change the God of the
universe's diapers. This gets a little gross, and I'm used to talking to youth,
so forgive me, but, human waste was next to Jesus' skin. Is it hard to imagine
Jesus in such a mundane and human way? In fact it is almost irreverent. But the
God of the universe loved us so much that He was willing to humble Himself and
give us the most precious Christmas present ever given: His Son Jesus.
May we never let ourselves say, "The same old Christmas story," ever again. And,
may we never get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season
that we don't stop and take the time to reflect about what an amazing God we
have.
May this Christmas, and every Christmas from here on out, never lose it's magic
or it's meaning.
Michael T. Powers Heart4Teens@aol.com